Storytime: how I said STOP to being treated badly

 

So I think we all know those kind of people who kind of don't know how to be kind to people. 

Well I know I do! So this is the story on how I finally said STOP to someone behaving badly towards me.  

If you have read one of my latest post, you would know, that I moved my horse G to another stable. It is so much closer to me and so much easier to be there. Again I would like to say I have no bad feelings against the owners of the old stable, but.... I feel like there is always a but.. 

There was this one person, who I thought of as my friend, but in reality, were probably not at all my friend. Well a "friend" who though that it is nice to walk all over people. Like I get it... You have had a life that was tough. There has proberbly been a lot of people who thought they could walk all over you. Now you think you are a strong person, who also think it's okay to walk all over other people, because the other people did that to you. but... are you right on this? 

Okay so one day I'll tell you about my life and what has happend in my life, cause honestly it hasen't been easy and yes people have thought they could walk all over me, and yes they could. But now I'm much stronger! But because of all of this, I chose to go a totally different direction. I chose not to treat people badly and not walk all over other people. you know why I did that? Because I know what it is like to be treated badly and I really don't want that for anybody! But (again with the but?!) if you walk all over me and you don't stop, when I tell you to - espesiually.. when I tell you to on a kind way. Then I will make you stop and not in a good way (no I'm not saying I'll do anything illigal. But I will not be a nice person). 

So here's the thing. the person from the old stable did walk all over me, even when I told her to stop in a kind way SEVERAL times! . You will get the full story on this. At first when I met this person I thought the person was nice and I thought that the person could be my friend (boy was I wrong!). The person started to act... yeah not that kind to me. We have different ways of treating our horses. Mine is more soft than that person. Like I don't kick my horse over the knee, just because it wants to take a nap.. 

Many times this person has treated me badly and many times I have been really sad and chocked because I didn't think, that you would say something like that to another person! My boyfriend M has seen alot of the messages that this person has sent me and honestly they were not at all nice! NOT AT ALL! They were all very rude and quit offensive! I always thought it was just me being too sensitive, but now when I look at it all. I wasen't to sensitive. It was just this person who didn't know how to behave! 

So one day I'll tell you the story about how all of the horses run out of their field, but for now I'll tell you the things this person said to me, when I told the person, that it was the person's horse who were the first one to ruun out of the field. But apperently I was wrong and it was my horse who did it first, because she had, the week prior to this, ran out of her pasture. But here she just standing so the owners of the stable had seen her, and then she ran to the other side of the stable, because this was the only door, the horses had to come in and out of. The person got very angry at me and told me I was a liar and all the things I were saying, were lies, because the person knows their horse. Well... There are two things which is wrong here. 1. My dad saw the persons horse standing outside of the field, while the others were all in their pasture. My dad even came in and asked me, if this was right. I still wish to this day, that I've seen it myself. I just thought he meant that it was standing in the summer pasture, which is next to th winter one. 2. My horse was the last one to get out and when I got out to look. She was still standing in the field eating grass. It was only when she saw me and made sure I had seen her, that she ran out to the others. Yes I got a smart horse, who actually likes her mommy. 

So this is just one of many things the person did to me. I could tell you about when the person had promised me one thing, but then did the excact opposite thing. Which I was of course very hurt by, because that is just being a really, really bad friend! One other thing was the person actually stole from me and told me it was theirs. Then got mad when I took it back, because you know it was mine! Name on it and all.  I know it was "just" a towel. But you thinking, you can steal from others and then get mad, when they take it back, because it's theirs. Like what on earth was this person thinking!? 

But the final drop that made me say a final stop was, that this person never really helped me. Like I helped the person alot, but when I needed help, then the person had a lot of excuses for not helping. Like I was a "bad horseowner" and didn't take responsebility of my own horse. EXCUSE?! I took more care for my horse, than the person did for their horse! Funny thing was, when my boyfriend asked the person to help. Yeah it was no problem at all. But if I've asked. Well let's just say i quickly learned, that I should not asked the person for help like EVER! The final two weeks of being there at the old stable) I had asked the person to put a rug on my horse in the evening, because they were getting the horses in for the night and it was still a bit chilly in the night. Those two times I got an answer back, that I didn't take care for my horse and it was not their responsebility to take care for my horse and a lot of other rude things. that really wasen't the truth at all! 

The second time i got an answer like that, well that was it! That was the moment I had finally had enough of this person and the way they had treated me! So I wrote a very rude message back. I'll admit it wasn't really nice, but it had to stop! I would not put up with this anymore! I was honestly livid! I got a rude message back about how they would not be spoken to like this and we should just take care of our own horses. Well again I spoke like this once (ONCE!) and I lost count on how many times the person spoke to me like this and I had basically taken care of my own horse all the time. I wasen't the one who had made othes take care of my own horse alot of the times. Of course you can get sick, but then I had M to help me. Never would I ask the person the help me, if it wasen't a complete emergency. 

But even there the person wuld not help me! So one day, when I suddenly got a lot of pain in my stomach. No it wasen't that time of the month. It was real actual pain. So much pain I couldn't really stand. I could only lay down completely rolled up, because I was in so much pain. M didn't have time to go to the stable, so I asked the person if the person could help me. Well the person didn't really know if the person bothed to do so. Like WTF! I'm laying there in PAIN! I can't stand up and the person was like being a little brat. Seriosly?! This person is a grown up in their 30ties. 30TIES and then they act like a little teenager! 

I know some people are going to say i'm just a jealous person and I'm just trying to make the person look bad. It's okay if you feel like this. I totally understand! But I'm sorry to say, but this is how the person treated me! I have many other stories like this. Trust me. I do!The thing I wanted with this post, is more about that it's okay for saying no to being treated badly! It's okay to say stop and get angry, when people think their actions doesn't hurt them in the end. Because you know what?! They do! In the end, karma will hit them, and there's really nothing they can do about..  

So yeah this was the story on how I said stop and no to be stepped on and you know what?! I am actually really proud of this! This was a step I really needed. I needed to say stop to be treated so horrible! So I'll take you later and maybe tell you the story about my life, or about when the horses got out or something totally different. I have many stories to tell! 

Love Maggie ❤